What happened to dating in the real world? It's what I call reality dating. Remember the days ladies when a man would approach you respecfully? He would tell you how beautiful you are, or how nice you smell, then you might exchange numbers and talk on the phone, then go to dinner, movies, or dancing? Sometimes a picnic, or cook at home? Where are those men? What happened? Why is it all about hooking up, spitting, swallowing, etc.? Or, is it that I'm 45 and want a real man who no longer exists?
Raider "reality" dating still exist. I know because I refuse to let it die. I still enjoy romancing a woman, flowers, poems, holding hands, all that good stuff. I see you are in CA and I am not ready to date yet but maybe someone out your way still believes in old fashion romance. I think even if people meet on the net that there should still be some romancing when getting to know each other. It looks like timing and distance has got me again. Hang in there and good luck on your search more...
Raider "reality" dating still exist. I know because I refuse to let it die. I still enjoy romancing a woman, flowers, poems, holding hands, all that good stuff. I see you are in CA and I am not ready to date yet but maybe someone out your way still believes in old fashion romance. I think even if people meet on the net that there should still be some romancing when getting to know each other. It looks like timing and distance has got me again. Hang in there and good luck on your search. less...
I think you'll be upset to hear, that the 'men' you're looking for, died out years ago!!!.
I can remember my Grandmother, telling me about men like that,way back when she was a little girl. And they were at Deaths door then. I think you were born 100 years TOO late.
LOL ariesram ... I disagree. I'm only 45 years old, and have had great dating experiences, just not in the past several years.
I don't think I was born too late, I think people more...
Quoting: Originally posted by ariesram
I think you'll be upset to hear, that the 'men' you're looking for, died out years ago!!!.
I can remember my Grandmother, telling me about men like that,way back when she was a little girl. And they were at Deaths door then. I think you were born 100 years TOO late.
LOL ariesram ... I disagree. I'm only 45 years old, and have had great dating experiences, just not in the past several years.
I don't think I was born too late, I think people have lowered their expectations. less...
Quoting: Originally posted by Katwoman1968 I think what happened in the "real" world can be summed up in two words....INTERNET DATING. It's easier than getting out there and meeting someone for the first time in person. It gives people the chance to meet alot of different people at one time. More connections.
I would rather meet someone in person than online but the reality is that dating is hard these days. So here I am!
Quoting: Originally posted by Katwoman1968 I think what happened in the "real" world can be summed up in two words....INTERNET DATING. It's easier than getting out there and meeting someone for the first time in person. It gives people the chance to meet alot of different people at one time. More connections.
I would rather meet someone in person than online but the reality is that dating is hard these days. So here I am!
Good luck
True Katwoman ... dating is obviously very hard these days. I live in an area where everyone has plastic surgery, fake tans, and starve themselves to look "good" ... I'll never do that, therefore finding a man around these parts continues to be challenging. less...
Quoting: Originally posted by RWGROOT60 I honestly hope what you are describing is not your experience
Somewhere along the line dating has become a power trip for many and words like respect seem to be lost in the shuffle. Its not just th...
Soooooooooooo, there is someone left out there who actually enjoys doing other types of things. Sex and intimacy are very important in a relationship, but it should not be the FIRST thing a couple does. Great response! You've given me a glimmer o more...
Quoting: Originally posted by RWGROOT60 I honestly hope what you are describing is not your experience
Somewhere along the line dating has become a power trip for many and words like respect seem to be lost in the shuffle. Its not just the internet. I think intimacy is the key in any relationship. I know thats what I'm looking for. I want to be in a relationship that i know that i belong there, that I'm wanted by my partner. Is sex part of that, absolutely. Is it the most important part..........not a chance.
So bring on the picnics, the walks, heck even a game of badminton or frisbee. You want to risk your toes dancing.....evil grin lets go.
Getting to know someone is not about what they can do for you, but exploring what makes them tick.
The sexual side is very enticing and even very important. But notches on the bedpost don't last as long as the notches on my soul
Soooooooooooo, there is someone left out there who actually enjoys doing other types of things. Sex and intimacy are very important in a relationship, but it should not be the FIRST thing a couple does. Great response! You've given me a glimmer of hope. :0) less...
Quoting: Originally posted by bluegirl2006 No offense, but I think you've been watching too many old movies. That stuff hasn't happened in last 50 years or so.
That's not true, I don't like old movies. Considering that I am 45 and not only have dated but have been married, I know that it has happened. My last boyfriend and I met one night, all he knew was my name and that I worked for a refuse company. The man called all the companies in our area, finally found me and sent flowers more...
Quoting: Originally posted by bluegirl2006 No offense, but I think you've been watching too many old movies. That stuff hasn't happened in last 50 years or so.
That's not true, I don't like old movies. Considering that I am 45 and not only have dated but have been married, I know that it has happened. My last boyfriend and I met one night, all he knew was my name and that I worked for a refuse company. The man called all the companies in our area, finally found me and sent flowers with a card asking me to dinner. So, I know it existed in the last fifty years. less...
Raidernette, I'm happy to say that whilst some might consider your ideals to be out of date, I think those values are still out there in a lot of cases.
When I look at the situations of friends, colleagues, acquaintances, most of them are with partners whom they dated with trips to the cinema, walks by the sea, meals out etc before they settled into a steadier relationship.
That goes for friends as young as 19 through to one in her 50s who is actually renewing her wedding vows tomorrow wit more...
Raidernette, I'm happy to say that whilst some might consider your ideals to be out of date, I think those values are still out there in a lot of cases.
When I look at the situations of friends, colleagues, acquaintances, most of them are with partners whom they dated with trips to the cinema, walks by the sea, meals out etc before they settled into a steadier relationship.
That goes for friends as young as 19 through to one in her 50s who is actually renewing her wedding vows tomorrow with her second husband who she met online a few years ago.
Maybe this online thing allows the shallow attention seekers to hold court and thrust their opinions on people as if no others count. Having a captive audience makes them forget they are dealing with fellow human beings who have feelings and values, and they don't realise how aggresive they can come across when they perhaps think they are being witty.
But whether at work, in a bar, online or whatever, we can just work out who we get on best with and leave the others alone to get on with their lives. One man's meat is another man's poison, hehehe maybe not the best phrase to use but hopefully you get my point!
There are definitely some good guys out there, even though mine hasn't appeared yet, lol. Hang on in there and keep smiling! less...
Quoting: Originally posted by RWGROOT60 I honestly hope what you are describing is not your experience
Somewhere along the line dating has become a power trip for many and words like respect seem to be lost in the shuffle. Its not just th...
Mmmm wish there were more like you here in OZ. xx more...
Quoting: Originally posted by RWGROOT60 I honestly hope what you are describing is not your experience
Somewhere along the line dating has become a power trip for many and words like respect seem to be lost in the shuffle. Its not just the internet. I think intimacy is the key in any relationship. I know thats what I'm looking for. I want to be in a relationship that i know that i belong there, that I'm wanted by my partner. Is sex part of that, absolutely. Is it the most important part..........not a chance.
So bring on the picnics, the walks, heck even a game of badminton or frisbee. You want to risk your toes dancing.....evil grin lets go.
Getting to know someone is not about what they can do for you, but exploring what makes them tick.
The sexual side is very enticing and even very important. But notches on the bedpost don't last as long as the notches on my soul
Mmmm wish there were more like you here in OZ. xx less...
Quoting: Originally posted by RaiderNette What happened to dating in the real world? It's what I call reality dating. Remember the days ladies when a man would approach you respecfully? He would tell you how beautiful you are, or how nice yo...
Real men do exist RaiderNette, but not in AriesWorld.
Fortunately, his mind occupies just a tiny tiny space in the much bigger picture. more...
Quoting: Originally posted by RaiderNette What happened to dating in the real world? It's what I call reality dating. Remember the days ladies when a man would approach you respecfully? He would tell you how beautiful you are, or how nice you smell, then you might exchange numbers and talk on the phone, then go to dinner, movies, or dancing? Sometimes a picnic, or cook at home? Where are those men? What happened? Why is it all about hooking up, spitting, swallowing, etc.? Or, is it that I'm 45 and want a real man who no longer exists?
Real men do exist RaiderNette, but not in AriesWorld.
Fortunately, his mind occupies just a tiny tiny space in the much bigger picture. less...
I think what happened in the "real" world can be summed up in two words....INTERNET DATING. It's easier than getting out there and meeting someone for the first time in person. It gives people the chance to meet alot of different people at one time. More connections.
I would rather meet someone in person than online but the reality is that dating is hard these days. So here I am!
I honestly hope what you are describing is not your experience
Somewhere along the line dating has become a power trip for many and words like respect seem to be lost in the shuffle. Its not just the internet. I think intimacy is the key in any relationship. I know thats what I'm looking for. I want to be in a relationship that i know that i belong there, that I'm wanted by my partner. Is sex part of that, absolutely. Is it the most important part..........not a chance.
So bring on the picni more...
I honestly hope what you are describing is not your experience
Somewhere along the line dating has become a power trip for many and words like respect seem to be lost in the shuffle. Its not just the internet. I think intimacy is the key in any relationship. I know thats what I'm looking for. I want to be in a relationship that i know that i belong there, that I'm wanted by my partner. Is sex part of that, absolutely. Is it the most important part..........not a chance.
So bring on the picnics, the walks, heck even a game of badminton or frisbee. You want to risk your toes dancing.....evil grin lets go.
Getting to know someone is not about what they can do for you, but exploring what makes them tick.
The sexual side is very enticing and even very important. But notches on the bedpost don't last as long as the notches on my soul less...
